31 JULY 2024 | Gigi Galasso
It took me nearly a decade to realize that there is nothing truly casual about casual sex.
Loving your body is a crucial part of this act of rebellion called self-love. In a world that often tells us that we aren’t good enough why not revolt against this notion.
For many of us, the journey to understanding intimacy is long and winding. It all starts with knowing yourself deeply and allowing yourself to be authentically YOU—naked.
I call it the dance of the mind. To be sexually free requires a delicate balance between physical and mental exploration. It involves knowing how to dip your toe into the mind, understanding the thoughts, places, and fantasies that turn you on.
For us women especially, mental stimulation can be just as important as physical touch.
It’s about discovering the things that excite you and being honest with yourself about your desires, fears, and dreams.
This self-awareness is crucial in building a fulfilling intimate life.
Enter Mr. O—a man who came into my life at a time when I was on the verge of losing hope in the female orgasm. After a series of less-than-stellar encounters, Mr. O was like a refreshing breeze. He was a little older, and his approach to intimacy was unlike anything I had ever experienced.
Mr. O was the embodiment of selflessness in bed. He believed that every inch of his body could be an instrument of pleasure, and he was determined to prove it. His methods were, to put it mildly, unconventional. We’re talking elbows, forearms, and even eyelids—yes, eyelids—dedicated to ensuring that I experienced pleasure beyond what I thought possible.
With Mr. O, there was no rush to the finish line. Intercourse was a mere footnote in our symphony of intimacy. The goal was not a singular climax but a continuous exploration of each other’s bodies and minds. His ability to make me reach the top of each mountain each and every part of his body, including those I never imagined in such a context, was both satirical and profoundly enlightening.
Mr. O showed me that intimacy isn’t about the end goal, as cheesy as it sounds, it’s about that journey and being able to respond to eachother’s needs by listening to the primal language, it’s forever a two way street where giving and receiving are beautifully intertwined.
So thank you Mr. O
Self love is the foundation of affinity and connection it allows you to be present with all your emotions and connect with your partner without the distraction of self doubt.
At the core of intimacy there is YOU.
When you love and accept yourself, you can truly let go of judgment and the societal notions of what sex should look like. Instead of worrying about perceived flaws, you become present in the moment, allowing yourself to experience pleasure without inhibition.
Here’s to every single one of us having the courage to be raw, naked and proud appreciating all our bodies in shapes and forms in our beauty and our strength and knowing we all deserve love and pleasure day in and day out.
